Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Perfectionism: How It's Stopped Me & How It's Not Going to Anymore

Recently, I just finished a book by Jon Acuff, called Finish.

I read a lot of books that are often filled with personality tests, goal setting ideas, steps on becoming a good leader, nutrition, time management....and I love them.

But this one.

This one SPOKE to me.

I thought I was going to read another book about achieving my goals.

Which I was pretty jazzed about.

Instead....what I read, chapter after chapter, was a book about me.

About all my self-sabotage ways.

And all the bizarre mind games that I play with myself.

It was like....I don't know....other people have these thoughts too (who knew!)

But you know what ALL of them were connected to?

Perfectionism.

Ever since I was little, I wanted to be perfect.

I wanted to do things in the best way, I longed to take the hard road because it made me look gritty and respectable, and I have had a bizarre pride in sacrificing my goals and dreams because 'people need me'.

In his book, Jon Acuff talks about all of these thoughts, and so many others that I thought only I had.

Turns out, a lot of other people are being jerks in a 'humble' sort of way too.

And, it also turns out, none of us are doing anything about the goals that have been in our hearts and minds for years.

We just keep getting stuck in a weird loop of perfectionistic thoughts.

Don't get me wrong.

I've known for a while that I have perfectionism stuff going on.  I've known that I can be my own worst enemy when I want to finish anything.  But man, when every. single. chapter. is a conversation that you've had with yourself at some point....you realize that all of it....all. of. it.  points to this issue of wanting and needing to be perfect.

To say that it's been something that's been a little mind blowing would be an understatement.

By the end of the book, I was crying.  Not like a sob....don't worry Jon! 

More like tears that what I was reading was true about me.
And that I had a lot of work to do.
But that I'm ready to do it.

So, I'm actually going through the workbook for the book, so I can put his suggestions of how to beat these thoughts into practice.

If you struggle with being perfect.

Or stuff like, desperately wanting to finish, but then you sit and watch 4 hours of Gilmore Girls.

That's the kind of stuff perfectionism doles out to us.

You wouldn't think so, right?

Perfectionism is tricky that way.

You would think that a perfectionist would be this super human who is wildly successful. 

And maybe some are.

But as one that has literally a million goals and ideas floating around in my brain at all times, and haven't had the guts to finish any of them because I want to 'make sure I have enough time to do them right'.  Then you might be my kinda perfectionist.

But here's the good thing about all of this.

You're not alone.

Hey, there was a book written about us, so there's enough of us that we need a book!

And, there's tools that can help us beat it.
And finish those goals that we've got.
And then ultimately, not live with regret, and help lots of people with those ideas that we have.

You can do this.  I can do this.

And now I'm going to post this blog entry without checking for mistakes.  Take that perfectionism!

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Friday, October 20, 2017

Low Carb Peppermint Patty Fat Bombs

The hardest part about a low carb lifestyle is not having....

pasta.....
pancakes....
donuts....

You know...carbs.

So, you figure out ways to 'cheat the system' a little, but you're really not.  You're kinda giving yourself more good things to eat.

Meet my friend, peppermint patty.



She's pretty awesome.

And SO easy to make.

So, here's what you need:

Ingredients:

1 cup coconut oil
1 cup vegan chocolate shakeology
1/2 tsp. peppermint extract

That's It!

Directions:

1. Put the shakeology, coconut oil and peppermint extract in a sauce pan over medium heat.

2. Stir constantly until the ingredients become smooth and you can stir easily...it should take just a couple minutes!

3. Pour the mixture into a measuring cup with a 'pour' spout, it'll make the next step much easier.

4. Pour the mixture into a 12 cupcake baking tin evenly.  If you'd like to use liners you can, but I recently figured out that you don't need too.

5. Freeze for about 1 hour.

6. Take out by tipping the pan upside down.

7. Eat one...because they're delicious.

8. Put the rest in a ziploc bag for later.

So, I realize that a lot of fat bombs use cocoa powder and stevia....but for real, shakeology is so. much. better.  It is super foods that you can add to your meal plan, and makes the most of the carbs that you need in your day.

So, for my low carb counters, here is what you are getting when you eat one of these.

Bear in mind....that I did the math by dividing by 12, if you choose to use a mini cupcake pan then these numbers will change for you.

Carbs: 3.75 g
Fat: 19 g
Fiber: 1.25
Protein: 3 g

Nearly all of the fat comes from the coconut oil, and everything else comes from the Shakeology.  What I love about Shakeology is that it already has stevia in it, which eliminates the need to add anything else aside from the extract.

I hope you enjoy it, and if you would like to know more about Shakeology, I'm your girl!  Just shoot me an email, you can also find me on Facebook or Instagram.  Or, just comment below.  ;)

Thanks for reading, friends.




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Monday, July 10, 2017

Coach Connection: A group that goes LIVE in New Orleans!



In a few days, I'm heading to THE biggest event for coaches.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to go and not feel inspired by the people around you, and the overall culture of this amazing company.

So it got me thinking....do you want IN?

While I'm in New Orleans, I'm going to be hosting a group that will share what I do as a coach, while also sharing about all the fun stuff that will be going on.

That includes fun announcements, amazing transformations, fun ceremonies, ALL OF IT!

This will give you a GLIMPSE of what this coaching life is ALL about and WHY I am so in love with it.

If you've been curious about coaching, and you are NOT currently working with another coach, please fill out the coach application form Here.

Once I have that, I will e-mail you to ensure that you're added to the Facebook group, and it will give me a chance to chat with you as well!

Thanks for reading, friends.



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Sunday, July 9, 2017

Insanity Max 30 Graduate Results!






'I am leery and even weary of people who promise to take you up fast' T.D. Jakes

Right there with you, Mr. Jakes...and this year has proven to me that the journey is often more valuable than the destination.

I have SO MANY before and after pictures from this past year, but THESE are my most recent. The one on the left is my 'after' picture from my last program, and the one on the right was me, yesterday, so, 60 days apart from each other

What did MAX 30 do for me? Here's a few things:
 Fitting BACK into my pre-maternity clothes...and EVEN my 'fit' clothes (you know the ones!).
 Got me OUT of my weight plateau
 Not hiding my mid-section behind my son in pictures.
 Being confident in not ONLY in my body, but in my mind, and in my heart.

Could ALL of that have happened in a week? 30 days? 90 days? 6 months?
I don't know, that's not been my path.

In these 13 months I have had to exercise not only my body, but my patience, my thoughts towards myself, reassess my expectations...and I'll tell you, that was all MUCH harder than pushing play.

Here's what I DO KNOW:

When you TRUST the PROCESS, it WILL work for you.

And when you embrace it, you will learn SO MUCH as you head down the path.

Are you in the middle of your journey? Have you not yet started? Are you frustrated and feel like giving up?

I understand ALL of these things, because this has been ME, and I want to help you!

If you're ready, if you want to get STARTED, fill out the application Here.

Thanks for reading, friends.


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Friday, July 7, 2017

PostPartum Journey: Taking My Health Back






When I received the picture on the right from our photographer, I couldn't help but look back at the picture on the left.
That was a picture that she also took for our son's 6 month pictures.
I even showed my husband and he said 'whoa! I didn't realize all the progress you've made!'
Gosh...I almost couldn't believe the difference.
I have so many of these 'before and afters' from this past year that even I sometimes get lost in the progress.
But that line between those two pictures...that's where the work lies. All the drive-thrus I reluctantly drove by, all the workouts I gave my all on, all the really great recipes I've tried and loved,
All. Of. It.
That white line also represents six months of being determined in my mind that I WOULD take my health back. That I was done with the phase of life where doctors tell me to be careful how much I can even walk, I was done with units upon units of hormones, I was done with recovering from surgery, I was done with all of it.
It was my time to REMEMBER that of all the things that I haven't had control over for the past 18 months...that's done. My health is my own. And I decide how this story unfolds.
You might be saying to yourself, 'Candice, chill, women lose weight all the time after having babies, you're not the only one to go through IVF, and you're certainly not the only who has had a baby.'
No, I'm not.
But that's why my story is worth being told...because I know the struggle of just munching on some tortilla chips because you're too tired to make a real meal, because you've had two hours of sleep in the past 24. I know the struggle of having my favorite pizza place on speed dial. And I DEFINITELY know the struggle of comforting myself with food in the midst of learning the responsibility of being a mom.
I also understand the struggle of comparison.
My weight has been slow to come off. While I saw other friends' who looked just as they did pre-baby about 8 weeks later. That thief of comparison would capture my thoughts and convince me that I could never be fit again, and even if I was, I CERTAINLY wouldn't look how I did before.
Lies. And worse than that, they were lies that I believed.
You see, this wasn't JUST about weight loss anymore, this was about false beliefs.
So I dove head first into finding ways to correct those lies.
And you know what, bit by bit, it's helping.
And wouldn't you know it, the MORE I believed in TRUTHS, the easier this weight loss thing became.
Gosh, I can't emphasize ENOUGH that what we THINK affects us so much physically.
This post is getting long, and I'm getting all rambly and emotional.
Please know that I want this for you.
The physical stuff, yes.
But the mental stuff....it's so essential!
KNOW that you are WORTH fighting for.
Maybe your story isn't post partum.
But I can tell you that you're thinking of it right now, and it's time to take it back.
Please comment below, or send me an email, and let's chat my friend! 
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Thursday, July 6, 2017

4 Years Later: Why I am STILL a BeachBody Coach





Why did I join Beachbody 4 years ago?
Because if I hadn't joined, I would have kept searching for that THING I was missing.
No, not money.
I can tell you with certainty that I had no idea how I was supposed to make money doing this. 
I joined because Beachbody was sharing a message that I not only could get behind, but one that I believed in.
Beachbody STILL shares that message:
Help people by giving each person THE BEST tools:
💥 A workout from world renown professional trainers
💥 A meal plan created by said professional trainers
💥 A superfood shake that is 100% plant based
💥 A strong community of support
I was totally on board with all that. And still am.
And in sharing that message, it has allowed me to do what I would be doing anyhow. Doing my best to feel healthy & fit.
You see, before Beachbody, I was looking, I was learning....I liked it, it was fun to me to try new recipes, live a healthier lifestyle...and still eat a cupcake here and there. 
So when my friend asked me to join, I joined without hesitation.
Because Beachbody FIT with who I am....and who I was striving to be...and still am!
I'm a lifer.
Because this healthy thing... isn't a fad.
It's a forever thing for me.
If you feel the same, ask me about what I do and how you can be involved. Either comment below or send me a message.
Decide. Commit. Succeed. 





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THanks 
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Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Overcoming Fear & Discouragement: July 10th Bible Study & You're Invited!



Hey Friends!

So, I have actually been doing this bible study thing for 9 weeks, but I didn't want to post anything about it super publicly until I had my bearings on it, and I KNEW that I would stay consistent in it myself.

Lemme give you the back story:

About 5 years ago now, my husband joined the military, and was heading off to bootcamp.  We had been married for three years, but we both just had this nagging feeling that there was MORE that we could accomplish than where we were currently at.  And, to make a very long story short, my husband felt a very strong pull to join the military and fulfill a lifelong dream that he had.  And I was so excited for him, and 100% backed him up.

So when the time came for him to leave, the church I was currently attending had a bible study open up on James.  It was an Inductive Bible Study and I had no idea what that meant, but I knew that with him leaving I NEEDED to be involved in a community of women that was going to be uplifting, but also, something that could challenge me as well.

If you know anything about the book of James, you know that it is all about how to overcome trials, to find JOY in the tough parts of life, and to be STRONG in Christ.  Whew, how timely was that?

That bible study changed my life.

I knew that I wanted to help other women study the bible in this way, and it was always on my heart...but as each year passed, I joined other studies, but still felt this tug to start my own.  The only problem is that most of the women I knew had crazy schedules....because I also have a crazy schedule...and it's so hard to actually get together when you have young kiddos, jobs, military life, etc, etc., so I began hosting this group on Facebook.



We're not fancy.  I tell you what you need to get started, and each day, I go Live in the group to share what I learned from that day, and invite you to to do the same.  That's it.

But gosh, the growth that I personally have experienced has been immense!  And to see our group grow from 6 members to over 20 now, just lets me know that I am not the only one who seeks this kind of community.

So if you would like to join in, if you are longing for that community, while also seeking a way to study the bible that is easy to understand, but also challenges you to ask questions and seek truth, please send me an email, or make a comment, and I'll chat with you about the upcoming study on July 10th!

Thanks for reading, friends.


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